The Experiment

A Prologue

After a 5 month relationship, and 33 years of singledom, pitiful blind dates, fix-ups, the occasional pick-up, online dating, and then the recent finale of friend-of-a-friend which was a five month journey toward the inevitable, (dramatic pause)I find myself in that age-old place again. Single. Two months after aforementioned breakup, and I sit in front of my computer. Wondering. I have wondered aloud to my roommates enough, have cried enough tears to my pillow, and if I had a dog, she would have since developed an allergy to my whining voice. No, it is time to DOCUMENT. To document, and to ACT.

So, here I sit. In the pink armchair my roommate dragged from behind the FREE sign across the street, staring at an 18th century unplayable piano that just won't go away. (Seriously, the owner just has better things to do than come and pick it up.) I am in the same place (singledom) but it looks and feels different. You know, like the dream where everything is familiar but your house is now blue instead of white, and your room is squidgy and green and for some reason the floor is crooked and you have to duck to get through the door (Oh, wait, I think that's Alice in Wonderland) Anyhoo, there are people there, all standing around and grinning at you and you have no idea who these people are, except that deep down you know you have known them all your life. Somehow. Anyway, it's like that.


The Experiment

I have decided to begin this blog as a way to chronicle my daring feat of wonder that is the indefatigable search for THE ONE. Oh, he is out there, yes he is. That I am sure of. (This is a change.) The experiment is not about finding THE ONE. This experiment has me in mind, yes, but also YOU. This is where YOU come in. I want to involve you in this process. Whether you are male, female, straight, gay, married or single...we have everyone one of us been through some sort of dating scheme. Some have worked, some have flopped. And I want your input!





The Hypothesis

Using the convenience of online dating sites, I will secure two dates each week during the month of August. By the end of the month, the outcome will be such that I will be able to name which guy I would like to see again, and to complete a total anatomy of what I desire in a man. In other words, I will be able to create a total picture. Communication style, looks, passions, goals, desires, etc. My idea is to somehow create a diagram complete with labels that will express these qualities. Yes, she said, a diagram!! (This is not to create the perfect man, but is more about self-discovery. Although, let's face it...)

The plan is to write about each date after it happens. I will give each date an hour and a half, at a coffee shop.

Disclaimer: As you can see, I am taking the whole dating thing a bit less than serious. However, I am treating this as a way to practice the art of dating. I am of the belief that there are too many single men and women who possess less than par dating skills that keep them from finding a relationship.

STAY TUNED! (This is gonna be fun...or at the very least, will give you a good belly laugh.)